What is vision?? Our brains tend to work in pictures. Today I am thinking of my dear friend, Nate Ellis and all the pictures in my mind of the memories we shared. Nate died at the early age of 39 after long fought battle with a debilitating disease. He is at peace now. Nate was my employee, my friend, my co-conspirator, my vision caster, my inspiration and my kick in the pants. Nate and I both had a passion for training, coaching and public speaking. Often as a public speaker, when so many have strong fear around public speaking, it is difficult to get constructive feedback. Nate and I helped each other to improve our skills as a trainer and speaker. I always valued his opinion and his feedback was invaluable.
Nate and I also shared a passion for listening to other speakers and trainers. We read a lot of the same books, went to events together and shared our thoughts on these events. One goal setting workshop reminded us that our mind works in pictures. The trainer told us, “Don’t think of jelly donuts!” What happens?? Immediately we started thinking of jelly donuts! Often people set goals of what they don’t want versus what they do. If I ask you to think of healthy food choices, most people think of a table filled with fresh and ripe fruits and vegetable, lean meats and whole grains. Then the Universe conspires to help us. Because our brains think in pictures, we easily are drawn to those healthy choices we saw in our mind.
After this session, Nate and I started to help each other stay focused on the positive images we wanted for ourselves. Words along with images have power. Nate was an inspiring trainer and speaker. He loved to sing and was often known for breaking out into a rendition of “danke shoen” at any given moment. We shared our visions and goals of being national public speakers and trainers. When Nate’s illness made it too difficult to continue with travel he was already well known as one of the best trainers of the National Association of Realtors. I loved to meet up with him after his travels to learn from him and share in his enthusiasm in living is passion. We had often joked that someday we would be “high-fiving” each other as one took the stage after the other. Even though Nate is in Heaven, released from his suffering, I am suffering and I miss my friend. I have promised to make Nate proud and to continue the vision that we had set out to achieve. As I continue to do speaking and training events, I will be taking a moment before each event to “high-five” Nate in special way in my heart. Nate Ellis…Danke Shoen for the gift of your life!